1) Couples who manage to keep that magic alive seem to have a distinct mindset. They seem to consciously create a very different attitude that allows them to stay positive about their partner and the relationship. They feel privileged to spend their time and their lives with their partner. It is about each day knowing that everything changes and anything is possible!
2) Couples who are aware of a sense of mystery in their lives, a sense of the divine and of the divine purpose that transcends what they can immediately see or hear, often live with a sense of appreciation for their partner and the relationship. They consciously create a spirituality in the relationship which is the foundation for all else. This is a paradigm which is very different from needing to fix their partner or from seeing their partner as a problem. Each person does not allow the thinking of “if only he or she was a certain way or would do X or Y then I would be happy”. They do not rely on each other to make them happy or to fix them. Nor do they try and fix their partner.
3) Such couples seem to possess a high degree of individual responsibility. This is distinct from a selfish me, me, approach where they are focused only on their own needs. Each person takes responsibility for their own growth and allows their partner to do the same. This alleviates the need for constant “fix you” innuendoes and suggestions. Each knows that they cannot take on responsibility for the other. That this would in fact be usurping the other’s role and authority in their own life. They do not try and change their partner. They realise that any discontent in them is their own responsibility and that they are also responsible for the person they bring to the relationship. That is, they do the work necessary to develop themselves, and to take responsibility for their growth. Their job in the relationship is to really cherish and honour their partner and to bring the best person they can be to the relationship.
4) Couples who resonate magic and joy seem to play a lot. They have fun with each other and don’t see problems as being insurmountable. Whatever is showing up in the relationship is seen as gift, and the challenge is one of perception, it is to have a deep level of personal responsibility and to ask, what is required of me here? They are light-hearted about things and do not see problems in the relationship as being personality failures. Rather they see issues as an opportunity for new awareness and a way of expanding consciousness.
5) There may be a disagreement but individuals listen to their own thoughts and ask why am I thinking that way? Then they listen to their partner and really see where the other is coming from, without trying to change or fix their partner. They manage to maintain a strong sense of self and an openness to the other simultaneously. This keeps the relationship in integrity. It also generates a high level of flexibility and support, and of care and compassion.
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