Relationships can be so intense and our intimate ones even more so. And on top of this they can also become mundane, predictable and boring. But it’s not meant to be like that! We can keep the spark going and we can reignite the spark with a little conscious effort. A great way to guard against the danger of taking things too seriously and then becoming overwhelmed by the “problems” in the relationship is to cultivate a playful attitude.
This also helps in keeping that wonderful feeling of aliveness that human beings thrive on. Playing together is essential medicine. We all need fun in our lives. Each couple is unique and there is no one solution that fits all here. But play with the idea!
See what it is that ignites your passion and sense of well-being and brainstorm with your partner on ways you can be creative with play. Play sport together, take up a new hobby together or watch live comedy or music together. If time is limited or money allocated elsewhere, find simple things that you enjoy together from home, like playing cards, scrabble or board games to name a few!
Create a new garden together or develop a new project together that interests you both. Go for walks together, cook together; whatever you choose, remember the idea is to cultivate a light attitude and a sense of fun. We all need to play together in our relationships to release those endorphins and feel good hormones. Make a point of having fun at least some of the time together! You will be amazed at the ripple effect this has in your relationship!
Margie provides Melbourne relationship counselling, coaching and support in Malvern East, Armadale, Carnegie, Ashburton, Chadstone, Mt Waverley, Glen Iris and Sth Yarra and Toorak. She is also available for Skype consultations. Please contact her for more information.