When we talk about communication we often think about what we say and hopefully how we say it.
However, it’s important to realize how much we communicate in non-verbal ways! In particular, I am referring to the attitudes we bring to the relationship.
One of the big pitfalls for relationships is a tendency to pathologize our partners. We can be very good at seeing our partners’ faults and weaknesses to the extent that we even label them with all sorts of disorders. And some times these might even be accurate!
However, even if they are accurate, we may well ask, how helpful is that? How loving and supportive is it, to be always seeing things through the perspective of what is wrong with or not good enough about our partner?
So, perhaps it’s time for an inventory of self.
What are the attitudes that you bring to your intimate relationship that are simply there in the field, communicated by virtue of the many million things that are unsaid?
This post was originally published here.